Salvere Blog: What to Say When…

by Salvere Health and Fitness

Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a space where topics or conversations start and it feels internally uncomfortable? It could be about someones body, dieting, exercise or something regarding mental health. Maybe someone makes a comment about their own body or a recent diet they tried. What do you say or do you simply stay quiet.

With our culture so hyperfocused on weight, weight loss and body size it becomes hard to avoid running into these topics. Knowing what to say, how to say it and when becomes challenging. While we can give you a start to some ideas, talk to others around you to see if they can provide some suggestions too.

First, if you find yourself in a big group and it’s the topic, maybe try to find a way to shift the conversation on to something else after a few minutes. In a small group, maybe you feel comfortable saying something to indicate its uncomfortable or that it gets discussed enough that you want to connect with them about other things. If its just you and someone else, you could expand the dialogue and share with them why you find the conversation challenging or uncomfortable.

For any of these situations, shifting the conversation to bring up a recent vacation or upcoming travel. Learn more about where they met their spouse or where they grew up. Ask questions about how they started in their career or something they would do if they could do anything. Maybe a day or two after the get together, share privately with one or two of the others. You might find they feel similar and it’s an opportunity to expand on why these topics don’t feel good, safe and helpful.



Let us know any strategies you use and share any experiences where you created vulnerable space that went better then you thought.

by Lisa Martin, owner and personal trainer at Salvere Health and Fitness. To contact, email lisa@SalvereHealthandFitness.com or call 410.707.0055.

We welcome your thoughts and ideas! Thank you for reading and staying the path to continuous growth opportunities and taking time for curiosity.

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