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Good or Bad? …. or “Is”?

February 13, 2014

Think of the last time good and bad faceyou took a test, had blood work done, taken a measurement or completed a project.  What question did you ask first?  So often we do things in life and immediately wonder if it is “good or bad”.   Think about your weight, your cholesterol, your heart rate, your body fat, your last running event, a written test, your hearing, your vision or your (fill in the blank here!).  We immediately classify them good or bad.  I ask you, does it really matter?  Are these tests really absolute?  or a baseline starting point?  So what if your hearing sucks a little … something can be done to make it better (and chances are you already knew it was harder to hear things before the test).

How often have you experienced someone telling you “that’s bad” and then you feel stress or depressed about it?  What if we stopped labeling things such as weight and cholesterol as good and bad?  Ever heard the saying – “It is what it is.”  Would certain things feel different (meaning better!) if we labeled them as “is” instead of good and bad?  And starting using these numbers simply for baseline, starting point measurements.  Often we don’t really know the specific value for “good” and “bad”.  Giving yourself permission to be exactly where you are at that moment in time allows for more self acceptance!  Remember, “It is what it is” much of the time.