Salvere Blog: Having Challenging Conversations

See how long you can go without either talking about or hearing someone talk about weight, losing weight, weight loss, being skinny, being heavy and/or eating “bad” foods. Reply with the longest amount of time you experienced!!!
What’s the big deal with this you might ask? Well, maybe nothing, maybe a whole lot, maybe somewhere in between. I talk a lot with friends and clients regarding these various topics and more often then not, they say how uncomfortable these conversations make them. (FYI this comes from people of all body sizes) Maybe because they tried to lose weight and didn’t, lost weight and gained it back or struggled after a health issue.
A few topics: going for weight loss surgery, not eating to lose weight, being heavy hurts knees/back, etc, so lucky to be skinny or not need to worry about weight, questions why exercise when thin, doing a shake or something extreme to lose weight.
What if you find yourself in a conversation that feels uncomfortable regarding weight or dieting, what do you do? Well, you could say something simple along the lines of “this conversation feels uncomfortable, can we change the topic?” Or you can expand on why it feels that way to you.
What if you find yourself being the one that brings it up and find out the other person doesn’t want to talk about it? Listen to the other person and respect what they feel. Complimenting weight loss feels like a great thing and sometimes it’s not.
Instead of immediately complimenting someones external body, find a way to ask a question first about what’s been going on. You might find out they’ve been sick or depressed or not eating. Notice something else like they seem to have more energy, notice their positive outlook or improved posture.
As a trainer, when we sit down and drink a beer together, it’s okay to simply enjoy the chicken wings with me! No need to justify or explain how it’s your cheat day or you’ll get back on track tomorrow or… Let’s change the conversations!!!
by Lisa Martin, owner and personal trainer at Salvere Health and Fitness. To contact, email or call 410.707.0055.
We welcome your thoughts and ideas! Thank you for reading and taking the steps to become a healthier YOU.

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